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doinchi · Dec 21, 2008, 02:44 AM // 02:44

So it's my friend's birthday quite soon and I've got her a bracelet. It's not an expensive one. It's got semi precious stones in it and NO HEARTS OR WHAT NOT. She has a boyfriend so I don't want her to get the wrong idea or incur the boyfriends wrath.

So my question is this, is is quite okay to give a female friend a bracelet for her birthday?

pumpkin pie · Dec 21, 2008, 02:59 AM // 02:59

I'd prefer if you pay for an online mmorpg account for me.

and don't see anything wrong with a bracelet, the only question is would she wear it? if not then its a waste.

*Darcy* · Dec 21, 2008, 03:00 AM // 03:00

Speaking as a girl, yes, inexpensive jewelry is fine as a friendly birthday gift.

Daenara · Dec 21, 2008, 05:20 AM // 05:20

Well, how would you feel if you had a girlfriend, and some guy gives her a bracelet for a gift?
I would guess it depends on how good a friend you are with the guy ?

Lord Sojar · Dec 21, 2008, 05:43 AM // 05:43

Yes, it depends on if you know the boyfriend or not. Personally, I would recommend yellow roses, or perhaps a card + a stuffed animal etc. Jewelery, anything red/pink/white colored, or chocolates are a big no no if you are not actively pursuing a relationship or wish to develop feelings for someone.

I think this comes down to personal preference. Though, I do have a lot of experience in this matter... but yeh. Do what you think is right.

the savage nornbear · Dec 21, 2008, 08:01 AM // 08:01

Perhaps a dick in a box? But really I would say no, but then I'm a jealous boyfriend so yea...

zelgadissan · Dec 21, 2008, 03:58 PM // 15:58

Just because sane men/women won't automatically assume you're wanting to sex her up doesn't mean that they won't, particularly her boyfriend. You know them better than us, so you tell us if it's appropriate.

Dmitri3 · Dec 21, 2008, 04:31 PM // 16:31

Give the gift and then if her boyfriend has a problem, send him the link to this thread. Problem solved.

Abedeus · Dec 21, 2008, 04:33 PM // 16:33

Ask the boyfriend if he's cool with that. That's what I'd do.

doinchi · Dec 21, 2008, 04:42 PM // 16:42

Alright, thanks for the help guys. I feel quite reassured about it now.

It's a small get together at a bar probably. I'll just pass her the bracelet, wrapped with wrapping paper, no box. She won't open it till later so no problemo!

Thanks again. I love the Off Topic section (:

doinchi · Dec 21, 2008, 04:42 PM // 16:42

Alright, thanks for the help guys. I feel quite reassured about it now.

It's a small get together at a bar probably. I'll just pass her the bracelet, wrapped with wrapping paper, no box. She won't open it till later so no problemo!

Thanks again. I love the Off Topic section (:

upier · Dec 21, 2008, 05:30 PM // 17:30

My rule for handing out gifts is:
1. get the person something that THEY want - either a practical gift or something they would have spent money on themselves.
2. if I don't know what they want - it should be something that can be consumed. This includes food (can even include cooking a dinner or something) or things like tickets (to a show, concert, a day at the spa ... In that case ask yourself how many tickets do you need - will the person go alone or with someone else? ...).

These two categories remove the need to take care of something (stay away from flowers in a pot or even worse - animals! That also includes things that will force additional costs onto the recipient - like getting a cell and then leaving the recipient to pick up the monthly bill (unless of course that's something that they would WANT!) and they also prevent the person being stuck with crap (hello plushies and home accessories - like pictures (although a framed picture of the recipient (and additional folks) on a special day that they remember fondly can be VERY nice!) or vases).

And then there are books. Although I cherish the written word immensely and I consider them to be one of the best possible gifts - there is just no point in giving a book to someone that doesn't read. If you feel that the person should read something because you find it insanely important - I suggest lending them the book, and if they love it, you can still let them keep it.

Now - on topic of jewelry:
My biggest concern, and excuse the brutal honesty, is that your selection looks like crap.
Does your friend even wear jewelry AND does she wear jewelry of such style?
It's the same thing with clothing - if you can't answer those questions - stay away from them!
I've given a good share of things that either looked like crap (before I knew better) or things that were so insanely stunning that I drooled the moment I saw them, but the recipient wasn't able to see the beauty in them, to know better these days.
Other then that - I really don't see a problem. Just don't write or say something like "Something precious for my precious" next to it. "Thanks for being a friend" is a very decent option.

enxa · Dec 22, 2008, 12:28 AM // 00:28

Well, would it be appropriate if a boy gave you a bracelet? Gosh, today's society is so complicated!

Divinitys Creature · Dec 22, 2008, 08:06 PM // 20:06

IMHO the fact you asked means you have feelings for her and it'll show when you give it to her.

lakatz · Dec 22, 2008, 09:07 PM // 21:07

Jewelery requires that you are so tuned into the giftee that you know their taste. That's a bit too tuned in for "just a friend."

The best kind of gifts if you just want to show someone they're special to you, but not THAT kind of special is irreverent gifts.

kaleidoscope
mini etch-a-sketch
bulbs or trees in a bag
kite
rubik's cube
flutaphone/harmonica/etc
etc
etc
etc

Dmitri3 · Dec 23, 2008, 04:03 AM // 04:03

I changed my mind, don't send this thread to anyone...

Mr. G · Dec 25, 2008, 12:54 AM // 00:54

Quote:

Jewelery requires that you are so tuned into the giftee that you know their taste. That's a bit too tuned in for "just a friend."

The best kind of gifts if you just want to show someone they're special to you, but not THAT kind of special is irreverent gifts.

kaleidoscope
mini etch-a-sketch
bulbs or trees in a bag
kite
rubik's cube
flutaphone/harmonica/etc
etc
etc
etc

you seem to live a very varied and odd life

RedStar · Dec 25, 2008, 05:29 AM // 05:29

Her reaction (and her bf) depends on your ages and how long they have been together.

Giving a bracelet with no "emotional things" written on it isn't really a big deal. For example, I gave a strawberry bracelet to a friend of mine and she (or her bf) didn't get the wrong idea.

The piece of jewelery I wouldn't give to a person who isn't from my family or my gf is a pendant.

ZenRgy · Dec 25, 2008, 07:16 AM // 07:16

A stuffed bear with a big nylon heart that says "I wuv woo". It's so tasteless that it will wipe out any thought of feelings whatsoever.

Rizwan · Dec 25, 2008, 12:03 PM // 12:03

Hey I had this exact same problem. Me and my m8 were really close until a incident. we never talked since. I promised her a bday prezzie before da incident cuz she was pesterin me. She DOES have a BF but dat didnt stop me. I got a FCUK gift bag and told her m8 to give it to her. Best prezzie she got on her bday

. You cant go wrong with cosmetics.